Last weekend was a very busy one for us. We attended two weddings on Saturday the 16th of August. There were at least 3 others that we knew of , and I am sure there were probably several more. Marriage is such an interesting institution. Many people see it as the ultimate goal in a relationship. However, it is only when you make the commitment that you realize that it is not the end, but the very beginning of a new phase in your relationship and your life.
Married people always have advice for those who are engaged or newly married, and I am no exception. Three things I usually advise prospective spouses are;
1. Marriage does not automatically change a person. Any characteristics that you did not like before you married your spouse will still be there after the ceremony.
2. Just because you love one another does not enable you to read each other's minds, so you will both have to communicate regularly.
3. Marriage can be compared to a plant. In order to grow and thrive, time and attention will be required for regular nurturing and tending.
4. Marriage can be a wonderful, intimate lifelong relationship that can give you support to develop other aspects of your life, both personal and professional.
Ferron and I will be celebrating our 28th wedding anniversary this Friday. Three years ago we renewed our vows at our church. It was nice to have our children take part in the ceremony and to have our relatives and friends present to share in this special occasion with us. It is hard to believe that three years have passed already.
I have been blessed with a wonderful, patient, generous spouse who has supported me in good times and stressful times. I strive to be as loving, patient and supportive of him and our children. One thing I have learned is that the more I work on loving and accepting myself exactly as I am, is the more I can love and accept my husband and children.
A long time ago, Ferron and I agreed that divorce is not an option. I think that agreeing to that helped to reaffirm our commitment to one another and gave us the confidence to know that no matter what, we would stand by one another. I believe that because divorce is so accessible, many couples choose the easy way out, instead of trying to work things out and stay committed, they opt to end things when there are challenges. So far marriage has been an amazing journey and I look forward to many more years ahead together.
I am thankful for the children that we have been blessed with. I continue to work on being a loving and supportive mother and role model for them in these challenging times. Despite my demanding career, I still place great emphasis on family and togetherness.
I still believe that the family is the real foundation of our community. If we could invest time in nurturing our families, our society would be better off. This would have positive effects on our individual countries and the world at large.
I hope you make time to communicate with your partner and your relatives. Tell them how much you care and better yet, show them by your actions how much you value them.
Yours in health and wellness,